Thursday, 16 March 2017

Life lessons from a small town! First Blog.

This week's themes are investment and determination 💗

Boy, have I learned some tough lessons this week. Firstly, let's touch upon investment. Now, I'm not referring to investments relating to money, stocks, shares etc, but investments in effort and time. I've learned the hard way (as all the best lessons are learned) that the time and effort you invest in other people should ABSOLUTELY correlate with how much time and effort they are investing in you. This relates to love, friendship and even business. If this were a game of chess, you would not be making ten moves to your opponent's one. And vice versa: their ten moves to your one move equally does not work. This mismatch of energies causes a huge imbalance and in fact makes the whole relationship unequal and buggers everything up, if not short term then indeed in the long term.
  
Some lovely simple lessons in relationship investment my dear friends: match their energy, match their moves, at least on average. If the person you are dating sends you a text, send one back in order to make a date. Don't send fifteen - it makes you look crazy. If you have emailed a query to a company, allow them to respond before you blow up their phone. 

Don't over-invest: it makes you look needy and greedy, and indeed that you are coming from a place of scarcity and fear, which is not a helpful mindset to attract abundance.

By all means, if the returns are shit, reduce your efforts and move on to the next one. A non-response can sometimes tell you all you need to know.

After all, as Louise Hay once taught me: if we all go down to the ocean for some water, do we all have to fight over what's available? Or is there in fact a never-ending supply of ocean? Hmmm, worth thinking about.

Going into situations grasping for dear life from a place of fear is a sure-fire way to lose out. Go into situations from a place of confidence and abundance, sure in yourself that you are high value enough to be deserving of someone's time; you'll be much more likely to come away with what you want. And if you don't get it first time? Meh, there's plenty more opportunities and plenty more of what you want out there, just waiting to fall into your grasp.   

The second lesson I learned this week is absolutely, no matter how much you are struggling with a goal or task, to NOT give up on that thing. If you get stuck, use your resources - read books, search on Youtube, or God forbid, ask people around you who know more about it than you do. (I wonder why we as humans generally find it so hard to be open about our weaknesses or ask others for help? Weirdly it seems to be considered as a weakness, yet my studies of some of the most successful people in the world, no matter what skill they excel in, have become masters in learning from those better than them. Basically, in accepting that you are NOT the best, it gives you massive scope to grow and to BECOME better, if not the best. Trust me when I say I have struggled with the basic technologies to the point where I regularly develop temporary tourettes and end up screaming in frustration at whatever inanimate object is 'failing' me at that precise moment. Tears often ensue. Which makes the act of 'not giving up' all the more delicious and worthwhile when you finally DO succeed at the task. Well done you! 

So to summarise: DON'T over-invest when you're not getting the returns, and NEVER give up on your dreams. Hope is what keeps us glowing, and pulls us through the mire.



Love always,
Karen x 

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