Blog number 5: New year, fresh start?
Many people rave about new year
resolutions and goals, focussing on a 'new me, new year' ideal, but
here's a radical idea, what's wrong with recognising the good stuff
in your life, regularly re-evaluating what's working, and carrying
that over into every day, every month, every year?
It also works the other way; seeing
what's sh*t, toxic, misery-making in your life (drinking too much,
negative people you hang around with too much, being in a job you
hate, miserable relationships that are dragging you down), and taking
steps to either get rid of or distance yourself from the rubbish that
isn't benefiting you, or making you sick or unhappy.
We're far more emotional than we
realise; we get attached to crap things that are bad for us, like
flies to mess. We should never assume that we can safely trust our
choices without ever questioning them! Most of the reasoning behind
why we do the things we do, is emotional, believe it or not. We carry
out a high proportion of our daily habits on autopilot, and many of
these are seemingly logical, but our reason for doing them in the
first place is usually emotional; it makes us feel good somehow.
We get caught up in habits because they
feel safe, familiar, not because they're logical. If we were logical
creatures, why would we smoke or develop drug habits, or keep going
back to that toxic ex even though we know how harmful they are to our
sanity?
It's been shown again and again that
people will only do things when they really want to, or there's a
compelling enough reason to do or not to do the thing. There's two
main reasons why we do things; to gain pleasure, or avoid pain.
That's it really. New Years Resolutions seem the ultimate way to
guarantee that you absolutely won't do something; it's the equivalent
of a nagging parent or spouse telling us we must stop stuffing our
face with pizza or we'll get fat. We know we'll get fat, but we don't
really care because the need for pizza pleasure is too great!
Inspiration comes from all directions
if we look for it, are open to it. It's really easy to be inspired
when your eyes are open, and you use that desire to be better to, to
create small goals for ourselves. Isn't it better to be progressing
and growing daily, thus putting yourself in a really strong position
for each year to come?
Do YOU believe in New Years
Resolutions, or do you work on yourself regularly instead? Which
works best for you?
Happy New Year all!
Much love, always,
Karen xxx
